Have you ever thought about why being on vacation feels so relaxing? Is it partly because you know no one is expecting anything of you, the phone is not going to ring with demands, and your social calendar is clear? Being here, I have no friends to hang out with, no classrooms to bring food for, no playdates to take the kids to, no neighborhood meetings that I'm committed to, no birthday parties to buy crap for + rush to, and no extended family to visit . . .